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Post by Erin ( Admin ) on May 30, 2014 9:26:42 GMT -5
As some of you know I'm going through a terrible break up. I have been pretty down about it and my friend dragged me out of the house for some fresh air. I have been sort of avoiding her because she cheated on her bf around the time i was dumped and im very bitter about the fact that she was able to get loads of dates while i was constantly rejected and now she has a guy who is in love with her. IN LOVE. We were hanging out and im kind of talking about it and who shows up? Her bf to surprise her with a gift. I got up from the table to excuse myself and give them some privacy but i was just angry. I know its bad but whatever. What didnt help was finding out he sold his first company for 3.4 million dollars at 24. hes 30. For some reason that made me go in the bathroom and cry. a lot of my friends and I literally went through break ups arond the same time and ALL Of them are bouncing back. But ive had dudes stand me up or just ignore me left and right. i feel so ...invisible.
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Post by worldisribzys on May 31, 2014 23:37:07 GMT -5
I'm sorry about all of this. I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better but all I can think of is just isolating yourself from your friends for a while. But that might not help and tat might make you feel lonely.
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Post by Kat on Jun 1, 2014 10:44:34 GMT -5
As i always say to myself. Focus on my goals my season will come. I do not know if you are religious or not but i pray to God to help me not miss my season. As forcing relationships may cause you to miss the right person for you. Your season will come, i feel it and i know it and when that person arrives you will be like WHERE THE HECK HAVE YOU BEEN? I'd say let your friend continue the way she is.. I'm sorry i know she is your friend but a cheater is a cheater and shes taking love for granted. However isolate and erase those thoughts, chin up. Explore the world. the guy that is perfect may be next door to you or maybe half across the world. Enjoy your youth x
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Post by addicted2carmex on Jun 7, 2014 9:39:53 GMT -5
I'm sorry girl! I feel ya! I don't even have any potential prospects either. I feel like I get constant reminders of how single I am on a daily basis. Friends are getting engaged, married, having babies, buying houses, etc. Sometimes I feel like I avoid facebook because of this. I am truly happy for them, but at the same time I want what they have. Although I have my career and my Bachelors, there is still something missing. I know that deep down in my heart if I ever eventually get married, odds are that guy will probably be white. I've been attracted to white guys for soo long that I can't imagine it any other way. I know interracial relationships can be successful, it's just finding Mr. Right is the daunting task.
I have a friend who is visiting her family back home in Kenya. She is staying in Kenya til July. Her boyfriend (who is white) has posed this question to her several times, "What would your parents say if I book a flight to Kenya to ask for your father's blessing?" I am 99% sure she is coming back with a ring on it!!!! He also has this beard he is not shaving until he sees her again. Strange, I know, but the thought behind it is ridiculously cute. Again, I am happy for her, but at the same time where can I find a guy like that! Especially one who is willing to fly to another continent to see you! I'm hoping 2015 will be the year for me. Major changes will be happening.
Sorry, I just tend to rant whenever I get the chance. Anywho, as for your situation, my advice is that you need some "me time." Do things that make YOU happy.
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Post by fyourbadvibes on Jun 16, 2014 10:41:16 GMT -5
It appears as if you try to validate yourself by doing better then you friends. You need to remember she is your friend not you competition. Comparing yourself to her will not make you feel better only worst. I'm not saying its an easy task , quite frankly when we allow our minds to sink into the comparing it becomes a habit very hard to break. If you can't be happy for your friend you won't ever be happy for yourself. It sounds to me like there is a pressure youre putting on yourself to be involved and bounc back like your friends, maybe taking the time for yourself will help. Rejection is tough , I know , but you have to think positive about it. A really good affirmation to say/think when you start thinking about it is "this rejection i'm dealing with is only part of my process, everyone has a different process but this will make me stronger , and make me more me" I hope this helps
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Post by lena01 on Aug 30, 2017 3:40:39 GMT -5
Jealousy is an emotion; the term generally refers to the thoughts or feelings of insecurity, fear, concern, and envy over relative lack of possessions, status or something of great personal value, particularly in reference to a comparator.
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