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Post by worldisribzys on Jun 1, 2014 0:32:40 GMT -5
Is it your obligation to try and make a "good name" for other black girls? This is something that I've been thinking about for some time now and I wanted to see if anyone feels the same. I am someone who really likes sex (even though i haven't had sex in almost two years) so I don't have a problem with certain things that most people may have problems with, like sleeping with someone on the first or second date. However, Black girls have been labeled as these sex hungry women who do it all the time and always know what to do. So I think that maybe the next time I go on dates, I should be more frigid and prudish. I worry about how that guy will go and tell his friends that "black girls are this and black girls are that." I worry how my actions will affect other black women. Do I get angry or not? Do I show my anger? Do I purposely show I'm sad or not? I mean regarding the sex thing I'm probably going to do what I want, haha, but I still think about it... Do you understand what I'm trying to say? I'm sorry this is not very well written. Maybe I'm just over thinking.
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Post by spnthrrr on Jun 1, 2014 6:26:28 GMT -5
No, it is not your obligation, nor the obligation of any other black woman. The responsibility of viewing black women as individuals rather than a monolith is solely the responsibility of the 'viewers'. If you meet someone who stereotypes you and other black women based on your behavior and worse, lets you know about it, then they're an asshole--and who wants to hang out with assholes? Not you. If you get angry over things that are said about black women, make your anger known if you want. I certainly do! Sometimes you'll get through to people, sometimes you won't. It's a never-ending battle. Just do you and fuck respectability politics.
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Post by missk on Jun 1, 2014 18:14:18 GMT -5
Totally agree with spnthrrr. Every black girl should handle her life and relationships the way she wants.
I think that we're so scared about being stereotyped that we don't live our lives the way we want especially in sex life.
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Post by ninasaur on Jun 1, 2014 18:23:48 GMT -5
Absolutley not! It isn't your responsibility to try to make other people differently of black girls. Chances are if they already think badly of black girls you're not changing their opinion no matter what you do and honestly they aren't worth your or anyone's time. you dont want ro surround yourself with people like that anyway. Just do you, because sex is awesome! And stereotyping and slut shaming are wrong, so let your feelings on them show
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Post by mjkta on Jun 10, 2014 18:17:56 GMT -5
Absolutely not. I think people always make a generalization on black women or women of color due to what they see on television. I get highly irritated because whatever stereotype/ generalization there is it messes up the good reputations of black women who act gracefully and calm. Just to be clear I think it has got to stop because its unfair to us. We all act differently just like women of any other race so don't worry about that
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Post by worldisribzys on Jul 3, 2014 1:16:01 GMT -5
Absolutley not! It isn't your responsibility to try to make other people differently of black girls. Chances are if they already think badly of black girls you're not changing their opinion no matter what you do and honestly they aren't worth your or anyone's time. you dont want ro surround yourself with people like that anyway. Just do you, because sex is awesome! And stereotyping and slut shaming are wrong, so let your feelings on them show Sent from my iPod touch using Tapatalk Thanks! I think I just felt the pressure because everything we do is under speculation! |
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Post by spnthrrr on Jul 3, 2014 20:24:05 GMT -5
Absolutley not! It isn't your responsibility to try to make other people differently of black girls. Chances are if they already think badly of black girls you're not changing their opinion no matter what you do and honestly they aren't worth your or anyone's time. you dont want ro surround yourself with people like that anyway. Just do you, because sex is awesome! And stereotyping and slut shaming are wrong, so let your feelings on them show Sent from my iPod touch using Tapatalk Thanks! I think I just felt the pressure because everything we do is under speculation! Yeah, we are under a microscope. And it sucks. But at the end of the day you're the only one who has to live your life, and you only get one of those, so you may as well live it in the way that pleases you most.  |
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